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Springing Forward and Springing Up

“Growth is not merely an increase in size, but a transformation.” ~Maria Montessori

By Alex Chiu

Hopefully, we can say with confidence that spring is finally here. After quite a crazy winter and the late arrival of spring-like weather, we seem to be moving toward warmer temperatures, budding trees, and greening grass. And just as the seasons have changed, so have the children in their Montessori classrooms.

What can you expect from your child this spring? And what can you do to keep their growth springing forward in a positive direction? Let’s take a look at the different age groupings to find out.

2 ½ – 3 ½ Year Olds
With eight months of school behind them, the toddlers and younger preschoolers are showing more independence. You might start hearing the phrase “I can do it myself” much more often. If you do, the very best way to respond is to allow your child to make attempts at doing more things by him or herself! From putting on their own coats and shoes to cleaning up toys to pouring a drink, allowing your children the time to do these tasks independently further encourages their confidence in their own abilities and helps to motivate them to learn to do more and more on their own. You will likely notice that your children are more adept at communicating their needs, and that they have had a ‘language explosion’ in terms of vocabulary and speech. Continue to foster this development by engaging in conversations, commenting on the things you see when you are walking or driving, and of course, reading together on a daily basis.

4 and 5 Year Olds
These students are likely starting to take on more responsibilities in their Montessori classrooms. They might be helping younger children with lessons or doing more to keep the classroom in order. Having had the older role models ahead of them has provided this group of students with a map for what their role will be in the coming school year. They are aware that they are now among the older more experienced classmates, and they rise to the occasion of helping others as needed. At home, provide your 4- and 5-year-olds with opportunities to help you plan, shop for, and prepare a family meal, organize the games or activities when friends come to play, or choose a family outing. This group is also deep into their friendship development, so encourage that further by inviting a friend or small groups of friends to get together during the summer to play, attend a free outdoor community concert, or visit the library together.

Kindergartners
The Kindergarten students may find themselves feeling some mixed emotions at this time of year. They are generally excited about their upperclassmen status, having worked through the complete 3-year cycle in their Montessori classroom. They are the leaders, the role models, and what the younger students aspire to be. They have learned a wealth of academic information, grown in confidence, gained leadership skills, and developed deep friendships and connections with their classmates and teachers. At the same time, they may be feeling nostalgic and a little apprehensive to leave this warm, safe, familiar environment. If they are moving on to a different type of school for first grade, the unknowns may be tugging at them—Who will be in my class? What are the expectations? These and other questions or concerns may be addressed by reaching out to your child’s new school for the upcoming year and asking if they might be able to take a tour. Looking around your neighborhood, you might see potential new classmates and have your child start developing those friendships during the summer through casual playground get-togethers. For those children who will continue their Montessori journey in Montessori Elementary, they likely will have the opportunity to visit their new classroom and meet with current Lower Elementary students. Being able to see what lies ahead may help these graduating Kindergartners feel more at ease with the transition that is approaching for the next school year. Don’t forget to celebrate their Kindergarten graduation as it is indeed a milestone worthy of recognition. These children have worked hard for the past three years on their academic, social, and emotional development, and what they have achieved is worthy of celebration!

Elementary
By springtime, the Elementary students are using the skills they have acquired to extend their knowledge and dig deeper into their various areas of academic study. While some students experience ‘spring fever’ or ‘senior slump’ with a lackluster attitude toward school as summer vacation approaches, we find that most Montessori students continue to approach their school days with anticipation and excitement. The Montessori materials provide continuous learning opportunities and grow with students, moving them ever forward from concrete to abstract thinking and from simple to complex concepts. Each day is a new day for discoveries, and the Elementary groups are not done yet! Elementary students have made the adjustments needed to thrive in their classroom setting. They understand the Elementary level expectations and have worked with their teachers and peers to develop time management skills. They have had the opportunity to do both independent and collaborative work, building skill sets with each of these types of learning. Moving into the summer, parents might encourage their Elementary students to create a reading list, with titles of books that span a variety of genres. Perhaps your Elementary child might like to further research an area that he or she found most interesting during the school year and take it to yet another level of learning. A family field trip to enhance this makes an especially nice summer activity. And just as with the toddlers who have moved onto declaring “I can do it myself”, your Elementary children will surely want to show you the added independence that they have in their new stage of development. Encourage them to take on more responsibilities at home. Invite them into deeper conversations about current events. These students are growing in their personal confidence and opinions, so it’s a perfect time to allow them to share their ideas, and teach them how to do that in a respectful, thoughtful manner which will serve them well throughout their maturation.

Family Dynamics
As your children grow and reach different milestones and stages of development, your family dynamic may shift a bit or require some adjustments. Keeping true to core family values is important. However, how you interact with your children and what you do to uphold what is important to your family could require some changes. For example, as your children grow, the vocabulary you use should grow with them. The responsibilities you place on your children can increase, and the conversations and ways of letting loose and having fun might become different. Being aware of how your children are growing and developing will help you help them to continue springing forward into the wonderful beings that they are and will continue to be as they grow in their knowledge, independence, responsibility, commitment to service, and love of learning and life. After all, each one of us continues to spring up and spring forward through each season of life!

Building Community through Books

by Alex Chiu

Some of our MCA parents are currently participating in MCA’s Parent Book Club meetings at our Morristown and Short Hills campuses. They are reading The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness by Edward Hallowell and discussing the five key elements that maintain the joy of childhood for children in today’s world, which ultimately help them develop into happier adults. The Parent Book Club meetings are a special time for parent participants and the MCA teachers who facilitate the groups to come together to discuss their reactions to the selected book, share personal experiences, ask questions, and form a special community.

The idea of the ‘book club’ likely started hundreds of year ago, with Puritan Bible study groups, Paris salons, Benjamin Franklin’s Junto literary society, and lyceum, where people came together to discuss topics of personal importance and current political and social events. In more recent times, the current book club boom likely was launched with the help of Oprah’s book picks, as local libraries and book stores quickly created meetings for community members to discuss her latest book choice. Regardless of how they came about, book clubs are a great way for people to share in the joys of reading with others. And just like adults, children (even young children) can benefit by participating in book discussion, as well.

So, how do you get your children interested in reading and discussing good books? Let’s take a look at a few ways to celebrate the joy of reading and help your child see that reading can build a bridge to community, to boot:

1. Saturate your child with reading material. Even the youngest children can learn to appreciate language and literature simply by having an abundance of things to read readily available. Keep a basket of board books for babies that they can pick up, a child-sized sturdy bookshelf for preschoolers, and a place for mom’s, dad’s, and older children’s books and magazines too! Public libraries sometimes hold used book sales, which are a great opportunity to stock up on new titles for the whole family.
2. Schedule regular family reading times. Many families engage in the familiar bedtime story ritual, but have you considered a time when everyone in the family is reading his or her own book at the same time during another part of the day? Even instituting a short 15-minute reading break on Saturday or Sunday afternoons can help to create a habit of reading for enjoyment, and you get a few minutes to read your most recently recommended book as well!
3. Discuss books together at home. Consider choosing one book that all family members read (either together or separately). Even with young children, everyone being familiar with the same book can open doors to interesting conversations about characters, settings, and connections to school, family, and other areas. For example, even the classic Goodnight Moon could lead to a discussion about each family member’s favorite things that are found in his or her bedroom or what rituals help people relax at night after a busy day. Have family members take turns choosing a book to discuss each month.
4. Institute a ‘book date’ for your child with a special adult. A grandparent, aunt or uncle, or close neighbor could be the perfect companion to share a story with as a special occasion. Be sure the adult knows the purpose of the ‘book date’ is to share thoughts about a book each has read, and also to simply enjoy one another’s company!
5. Consider starting an informal children’s book club with a few of your child’s friends and their parents. Together, generate a reading list of books across a variety of genres and themes at the appropriate age level. Be sure to include both fiction and non-fiction titles on the list. Schedule the dates for your meetings, perhaps once every other month. Rotate homes or meet in the children’s section of your local library and remember to provide some snacks for the book club session. An adult may need to lead the discussions at first, so be prepared to have some open-ended questions ready for your participants. Questions might include things like: Which character did you like best and why? What surprised you in the story? If you were the main character, what would you have done? What is similar/different about the setting of the story and where you live? Would you recommend this book to a friend and why or why not? Include a game or craft that relates to the book in some way, and keep the length of the meetings appropriate for the children’s ages and stages of development – it’s always better to leave them wanting more than dragging out a book club meeting and risking losing the children’s interest!

Sharing in the joy of reading with family and friends allows everyone to take fantastic journeys together through the pages of wonderful books and helps to build a community of readers young and old.

For more information about the history of book clubs, you might enjoy reading the following articles which were used as a reference:

 A History of Radical Thinking: How Women Created Book Clubs (Kristin Hunt, 2016) broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/nejbvk/a-history-of-radical-thinking-how-women-created-book-clubs
 The Evolution of American Book Clubs: A Timeline (Otto, 2009) www.minnpost.com/books/2009/09/evolution-american-book-clubs-timeline

If you’re interested in starting a book club for your children, the following articles provide some additional helpful hints to get your book club off the ground:

 How to Start a Book Club for Kids
www.pbs.org/parents/education/reading-language/reading-tips/how-to-start-a-book-club-for-kids/
 20 Ideas for Starting a Book Club for Kids (Marie, 2017)
bookriot.com/2017/08/18/book-club-for-kids/

Reflections at The Montessori Children’s Academy

As we enter this new year, we thought we’d take a look back at just some of the MCA special events and highlights from September through December. In just a few short months, the children have experienced so much both inside and outside of the classroom. Reflecting upon the fall 2017 semester, we are filled with gratitude for the opportunity to work with our MCA children and families, as well as with others in our local areas and the broader Montessori community. As we look forward to what 2018 holds, we are filled with hope and anticipation
for all that we are yet to discover and achieve together!

Commemorating the International Day of Peace

Fall Harvest Family Fun Day

Visit from Our Local Firefighters

Celebrating Diwali

Making Music

Picasso Studies

Elementary Study of Atoms

MCA’s Disaster Relief Bake Sale to Support Montessori Communities in Puerto Rico

Paws of War Assembly with Jason and Dixie

Working Around the Classroom

Gingerbread Decorating

Looking ahead to 2018…

A Practical (Life) Thanksgiving

By Alex Chiu

Thanksgiving is just the holiday for making connections between home and your child’s Montessori school experience. With the number of preparations involved, it’s wonderful to have extra hands helping with all of the details, and your children have a great deal to offer as helpers. Since September, they have been refining many of the skills needed to pull off a perfect Thanksgiving holiday for family and friends. Invite your child to participate in the planning and preparation. They will take pride in and feel great satisfaction in being able to contribute, and you’ll be grateful for the extra help in getting things done!

Before the Big Day

Clean: As you begin your household chores, consider what tasks can be done by your child. At school, Montessori students practice folding cloths, scrubbing tables, washing dishes, sweeping, cleaning the leaves of plants, rolling rugs, and pushing in chairs, just to name a few. See what needs to be done around the house before company arrives, and then invite your child to take on one or more of the chores that he or she can be successful in completing. Simple chores such as putting clean hand towels in the guest bathroom, organizing their toys, or pushing in the chairs around the dining room table allow even the youngest children to feel like they are making a contribution to the festivities.

Decorate: Montessori students have ample opportunity to be creative with a variety of art supplies at school. Charge your children with the task of creating table centerpieces. Encourage them to take a nature walk and collect items to use in their creations. They may also enjoy making place cards for your dinner guests. Provide them with colored paper, scissors, colored pencils, and the list of guests. To welcome visitors, you might like to spend time together making a welcoming wreath for your front door. Using a wire or grapevine wreath frame available at most any craft or dollar store, use clothespins to attach favorite photos or items from nature, or tie strips of different colored ribbons around the frame.

Set the Table: Your children are already old hands at setting the table by the time Thanksgiving rolls around. They have been setting up their lunch spaces since the start of school, and many classrooms have likely set out a “table setting” work on the Practical Life shelf, showing the proper placement of forks, knives, spoons, and napkins. If your dishes are too fragile, work together. Let your child set out the napkins and utensils while you set out the dishes and glassware. And remember to have your child count while doing this chore. How many people are coming? How many of each item will we need? How many utensils will be on the table in all? Learning opportunities across disciplines abound in this preparation work!

Thanksgiving Day

Help with Food Prep: Food prep is often a favorite activity for Montessori students. They become young experts in peeling, chopping, pouring, and so much more. Allow your child to help with measuring and mixing, slicing (with a child-safe kitchen tool) and washing, or pouring and peeling. Remind your child to wash hands prior to doing any food prep, and provide some guidance, but be prepared to be surprised at how well they can manage many tasks in the kitchen!

Practice Grace and Courtesy: Prior to the arrival of your guests, coach your child in some of the social graces you expect of them. You might have your child collect coats as guests arrive or provide newcomers with a small tour of the main level of the house. Have your child introduce guests to one another, and practice some ‘conversation starters’ for your child to use. Share some memories about family and friends who will be joining you for the celebration, or put out some photo albums for your child to peruse with guests as a springboard to hearing old stories and making new lasting memories. At the dinner table, include your child in conversations by asking open-ended questions or encouraging your child to share some stories about school, friends, or special events.

Clean Up: Just as with setting the table, your children can easily assist with certain clean up jobs. Ask them to help clear dishes, wipe counters, or push in chairs. Transferring leftover items from serving dishes into storage containers is a great job for children to do. Whatever the task, allow your child to do the job to the best of his or her ability, and enjoy having the help!

When everyone is full, when all the work is complete, and when the busy-ness of the day winds down, take a few moments to reflect on all of the hard work that was done in order to create a special day for everyone to enjoy. Think about the ways in which your child was able to help and how he or she is growing, developing new skills, and gaining independence. Maria Montessori once said that “Joy, feeling one’s own value, being appreciated and loved by others, feeling useful and capable of production are all factors of enormous value for the human soul.” So before the day is done, share your reflections with your child, and remember to give thanks for it all!

Photo Credit: http://farm3.staticflickr.com/2677/4104214861_9f3e18b225_z.jpg

Packing the Perfect Lunchbox

By: Alex Chiu

Just one of the many wonderful things about Montessori education is that everything that happens in the classroom is viewed as a learning opportunity. Consider the simple act of having lunch. In a Montessori setting, the children learn how to follow multi-step instructions to take part in setting up and preparing their lunch spaces. This includes retrieving their lunchboxes from where they are stored to setting out their placemats and food, to eating politely, and finally throwing away trash and cleaning up. It’s a lot to remember and complete for our younger students, but they learn the routines quickly and perform the tasks beautifully every time they have lunch at school.

One of the best ways to ensure your child can enjoy eating and socializing during lunchtime at school is by having him or her help to prepare lunch for each day. Providing your child with healthy choices and allowing him or her to decide which to bring on a given day gives your child some control over what he or she brings in to eat and teaches responsibility in getting the lunch packed and ready for school. This begins with including your child in purchasing his or her first lunchbox and continues throughout the year as he or she works together with an adult to pack that beautiful box with daily meals.

Here are some teacher suggestions (or “secrets”) to packing a perfect lunchbox:

1. Label everything! Especially at the beginning of the school year, the children are learning whose lunchbox belongs to whom, and often the children see that their classmates have the same containers or placemats. Not only does labeling all items help your child recognize his or her name, it also helps to make sure all items that belong to you return home!

2. Consider your child’s lunch ‘space’. In a Montessori classroom, children learn to organize their workspaces on a floor rug or table. The same holds true during lunch. Many Montessori classrooms encourage children to use placemats during lunch because the placemats offer the children a visual context in which to organize their lunch and maintain their space among the others sitting at the table. Some teachers have their students make their own placemats to use during lunch, some provide a plastic or vinyl placemat, and some may request that parents send in a cloth placemat to be washed at home as needed for the children’s lunchtime routines. Ask your child’s teacher if a placemat from home is needed.

3. Consider reusable containers. While plastic disposable baggies are easy and light, they are not the best choice for our environment. Since lunch is another learning time in the Montessori classroom, children are encouraged to pack in an eco-friendly way. Not only do you help the planet by packing reusable containers, but you also help your child practice fine motor skills for opening and closing lids. Children learn to match sizes and shapes of containers and lids, and they gain a special awareness when deciding what will fit into different sizes of containers.

4. What about the food?! Montessori children do learn about health and fitness, and preschool is not too early to encourage varied and healthy food choices. While each child has his or her preferences, teachers find that children enjoy a small portion of a variety of foods rather than one large main dish. You might think about sending in a small container of carrots, olives, or cucumbers sliced and paired with a favorite cheese or dip (hummus or ranch dressing). Another Tupperware might be filled with grapes, berries, or apple slices. Still another may provide your child with favorite crackers and a few sliced cold cuts. Having several small portions of different types of foods gives children choice and variety, and creates a ‘picnic’ type of meal which most children really enjoy.

5. Keep it cold (or hot)! Be sure to put foods that need to stay hot in an airtight thermos. Use an icepack to keep cold foods cold. Most schools do not have the space for refrigerators or microwaves in the classroom, so it’s always helpful for parents to take charge of sending the food in the safest manner.

Most teachers encourage students to repack any foods that were left uneaten. It’s important for parents to pay attention to what comes back home in the lunchbox at the end of the day. Perhaps your child is tired of a certain food or is packing too much to be eaten in a given lunch period. Talk with your child about his or her lunchtimes. Ask what his or her classmates enjoying eating, who he or she sits beside, and what special routines the class has for lunch. We may think it’s ‘only lunch’, but in Montessori, lunch is an important part of the school day, too!

Photo from the howwemontessori.com website – a perfect example of a Montessori lunch!